Saved by a Pound of M&Ms

Author : Zoe McNamara
Let me start by saying that child safety issues really haven't changed all that much. The unscrupulous are a little bolder and more creative, and there are many more ways for harm to reach your kids. But as always, parents need to have eyes in the backs of their heads.I grew up in the country. When I was in first grade, and my sister was in third, we felt perfectly safe walking home from school with our friends. We always made a point of passing by Miss Kinch’s, and handing our pennies through her kitchen window in exchange for homemade frozen treats.My father had a vegetable garden, and in the evening, while he worked in it, my sister and I would bring in the animals from grazing. Three years later, we moved to a city where everything was gray and nobody smiled.One cold afternoon I was waiting outside for my sister to come home from school, and I was approached by two of what I could only categorize as big people, since they were about twice my nine-year-old height. But an audience--and one that was very interested in what I had to say!They questioned me, chatted me up for a whileâ€"then grabbed me. No matter how I tried to convince them that I wasn’t allowed to go beyond the corner where they’d found me, they insisted that I come with them. I began to drag my feet a little, and they only yanked my arms harder. It still didn't occur to me at this point to fear for my safety.Whether my motivation was fear of getting in trouble for wandering off, or the sight of the lower end of downtown, I'm not sure, but I suddenly broke away, shouting that wherever we were headed, we simply couldn’t continue without a supply of M&Ms, and ran back to our apartment to get some, hoping those two wouldn't be angry with me for delaying our stroll.When I burst in and shouted breathlessly that I needed lots of M&Ms, my Mom pulled me in and locked the door behind me. I was horrified at her treatment of my new "friends," and went off to my room in a snit.The lessons for me as a parent are manyâ€"listen to my child more, so she won’t feel lonely and ignored. Talk with her more, so she won’t feel like she has to seek the attention of potentially harmful strangers.Check her understanding of safety regularlyâ€"don't leave your precise instructions up to the interpretation of incomprehensible Child Logic. Get to understand her view of the worldâ€"it might need adjusting. And for goodness' sake, avoid basing your conclusions about the safety of your child on well-intentioned advice that doesn't take your values into account.copyright http://little-turnips.com 2003-2005 - All rights reservedZoe McNamara
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