Author : Margrit Harris
So you haven't lost 10 lbs.You're still screaming at the kids.You haven't given up nagging your partner.You missed the deadline to enroll in that night class.And you haven't started paying off those credit card bills.Don't despair, all is not lost!One of the major reasons we abandon our New Year's Resolutions is because they are 'should' driven.What does that mean and what can I do about it?It means that a goal is made because we feel we 'should'. They are goals we feel obligated or pressured to make. They are not the type of goals that spring from our deepest desires fed by our hopes and dreams.For example: Your partner thinks you carry a year's supply of food storage around your middle.Your mother gives you that 'you're bad' look each time you raise your voice with your children.The ProblemTo please your partner and mom you set yourself the goals to loose weight and to quit yelling at the kids. However, when you stop to really think about it, you personally don't care to fit into a bikini again nor do you deem your tone of voice with the children as excessively loud.Both of these goals were set out of a sense of 'should' and not want to. And that is a major reason why many of our New Year's Resolutions never last long. For goals to have staying power they must come from an inner desire and not external pressure.The SolutionIf you've forgotten your New Year's Resolutions revisit them and decide which one or two you might wish to scrap. And then sit down again and allow yourself to create one or two goals that truly come from your heart. Goals that propel you towards your purpose here on earth, goals that will guide you to make a difference in your own life and in the lives of others.Leave the nit picky goals behind and reach high, dream big and then allow your heart to be your guide in making them real.When you do this you'll find things [like eating habits and patience] fall into place much more readily.Margrit Harris, Your Relationship Expert, provides Helpful Answers to Tough Relationship Questions for life and business.
Business clients include Wachovia Securities, Morgan Stanley and a variety of small business executives. While life clients range from college students to seasoned professionals. Author of StrataTips, practical weekly free Relationship Advice, and the popular goal setting ebook VisionRoadMap. Visit StrataTeam's estore today.
Keyword : new year's resolution,goals,abandon,forgotten,hopes,dreams,shoulds,goal setting,dream big,purpose
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