Author : Tim Connor
Being – who you are - is often a very difficult task. Managers, customers, spouses, friends, parents, siblings often ask us directly or indirectly to behave in ways that is consistent with who they think we should be. For many years I have been accused of being a – maverick. That word can mean many different things to each of us. I don't know whether I am or not, but I do know that we can't be happy, successful or at peace with ourselves or the world as long as we are being anyone other than - who we are. Yes, we are developing, growing, changing and becoming but, all of this needs to be according to our own inner drive to be.What is a maverick anyway? He or she:-is a trail blazer-is seen as a risk taker-is perceived to be at odds with the rest of the world-swims upstream (ever considered that every one else is swimming in the wrongdirection?)-doesn't go along for the sake of going along-can be a visionary-can be a trouble maker for the status quoThere's more but I want to get to the real point of this tip.When we allow others to determine: who we should be, how we should behave, what we should believe, how we should feel, ( I know - I know a lot of shoulds) but that is precisely the point. Who SHOULD determine who we are? This is not rocket science my friends. It is really quite simple: as long as you let others determine your destiny, personality, behavior, feelings etc. you will never be really happy or successful (no matter how you choose to define success) nor will you ever be at peace with yourself.Who in your life is not happy with who you are or who you are becoming? How are they attempting to influence your evolution? Are they doing it with:-manipulation-guilt-anger-suggestions-punishment (emotional or otherwise)-subtle support-bartering-threatsother_______________Don't let them do it. I have done so many times in the past. I have caved in and have always regretted it. I am not saying don't change. I am only suggesting that you change you when you are ready for whatever reason.Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That's Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com
Keyword : success, motivation, inspiration, relationships, happiness, peace of mind, goals, balance
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